Wednesday, March 11, 2009

The Wife of a Noble Character (What I Wish I Could Be)

A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

Noble –admirable; possessing outstanding qualities; possessing, characterized by, or arising from superiority of mind or character or of ideals or morals; of high or exalted rank

Women like this are rare, especially in our society today. A woman who is noble, who is of high morals and character, is priceless. Men may be attracted to outwardly beautiful women, but life will be long and difficult if there is no inward beauty.

Whether you’re a wife or not, these are all attributes we should strive to have in our lives.

Here are the traits of a wife or woman of noble character:

Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

A noble woman is trustworthy. She will conduct herself in the same way, regardless of whether or not she has an audience. She can be trusted to make wise decisions, to be honest, to keep secrets. In a marriage, her husband knows he does not have to keep tabs on her whereabouts, her spending or her friendships. He can rely on her in both the good times and bad times and can be confident that she will strive to make the best decisions for their household.

She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

A noble woman wishes to see those she loves healthy and happy. She will avoid actions that could harm the people she cares about. A noble wife upholds her family name. She does not do things that could hurt her or her husband’s reputation. She does not want to be an embarrassment. A noble woman and wife does not talk unfavorably about her loved ones. She doesn’t want to lower others’ opinions of her family. She brings respect and dignity to her family.

She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

A noble woman works hard and works smart. Though women today don’t have to “select wool and flax” and make their own clothes, a noble woman shops smart She shows good judgment in her purchases. A noble wife does not waste her resources. She shops for bargains on clothes, food and household items. She is not wasteful. And while we don’t have to necessarily “get up while it’s still dark,” a noble woman is not lazy. She fulfills her household responsibilities to her best ability. The “noble wife” prepares (or acquires) food for her family and keeps her family healthy.

Being a woman—especially if you’re a wife/mother—is a full-time job. It doesn’t often seem fair that we work all day and into the night, but God has equipped us to do this. Though men may be physically stronger, women seem to be able to handle burdens more adequately, especially the burdens of her family.

She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

A noble woman is generous and compassionate. She doesn’t just give money; she gives of herself. S he gives her time and her heart. For women with children, this is a beautiful example to pass on. Children learn from their parents’ actions; demonstrate charity and kindness.

When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

A noble woman plans ahead. She doesn’t focus on what she wants to do, but what she needs to do. She plans for the future, not just tomorrow. Her family is ready for almost any situation. She makes sure that they are prepared for even the hardest times.

She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

A noble woman takes pride in her appearance. This doesn’t mean she’s vain or that she spends all of her money on clothes, hair and jewelry. Even if her clothes are not of the finest quality, she will make sure they are clean and presentable. She will take care of her body and appearance.

She will also take care of her home and take pride in her surroundings. She will make it a place of rest and comfort for herself and her family

Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

A noble woman brings respect to her husband. People are influenced and often based on the company they keep. A man with a noble wife (as opposed to just a pretty wife or even a smart wife) displays wisdom in his choice.

She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.

A noble woman uses her talents, whether she receives monetary compensation or glory in heaven later on. Whether it’s working with your hands or working in the church, each noble woman has her own God-given talent.

She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.

A noble woman may feel weak, but her spirit is strong. She does not bring shame or disgrace on herself or her family. She is a role model for her children and for other women.

A noble woman has joy. She may be stressed and frustrated, but she does not let worry overtake her life. She dwells in her joy and blessings and strives to find happiness in every situation.

She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

Noble women are often sought out for their advice. They do not speak from sheer emotion but from wisdom. They keep the best interests of others in mind and do not offer advice based on personal gain or desires.

A noble woman is constantly instructing her children in how to become noble. She takes every opportunity to impart wisdom on them and constantly searches for “teachable moments.”

She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

A noble woman accepts that she cannot be lazy. She may not get everything done on time, but it won’t be due to idleness. She is actively and healthily involved in the lives of her family.

Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

"Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."

A noble woman is appreciated. Her joy and morals will rub off on those around her. Noble women might not always receive the praise they deserve, but their family and friends do notice their hard work. Noble women are sometimes taken advantage of but are always loved. They are a blessing to everyone who meets them. The family of a noble woman sees THEIR mother/wife as the best, even if they’re too proud or embarrassed to admit it.

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate

It all comes down to this: a woman who fears the Lord and loves her God IS a noble woman. She WILL be praised. A woman who “gets by” on her charms or feminine wiles lacks character. Beauty does not last forever. The only things that time does not take away from us are our character and our faith. If a man falls in love with your inside beauty, if he cherishes you because you are a noble woman, you don’t have to worry about losing what attracted him to you. You don’t have to put on a show or spend all of your time “primping.”

A noble woman will be rewarded. Perhaps she will not receive her reward in this life, but she will in the next. And whether she realizes it or not, her good attitude and good works are an influence of everyone she encounters.

As women, we are often overwhelmed on a daily basis. It’s easy to read Proverbs 31 and think, “There’s no way I can do or be all of that!” Just as God doesn’t expect us to be perfect, we aren’t expected to be perfect wives, mothers, or women. This should be a list of characteristics for us to work toward, though. Honor God with your life; seek His help in both your best and worst times. It is only with Him that any of this can be accomplished.

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